Chapter 652 Women’s Classic

Of course Wen Ruyu understood what Tu Yalan meant, and had no reason to refute, but she asked a little unwillingly, "Leader Tu, are you not optimistic about the sibling relationship between me and him?"

Tu Yalan shook her head and said "Why don't you understand what I mean? Sibling love is not a problem. Don't say that you are only six or seven years older than him. Even if you are more than 10 years older than him, it is not a problem.

The problem is that you should know What are your advantages, and you must work hard to maintain the continuity of this advantage?

Let me tell you this, if you were a housewife when you met him, there is nothing wrong with your current choice.

He came from the countryside. After he came to the city, he saw many young girls, but why did he choose you in the end?

Did he think you were an intellectual? Women

In addition to your natural beauty, your elegant temperament and the connotation of an intellectual woman are something he has never seen before.

To put it bluntly, let me just talk about it. I believe that what he likes is you and Jieping, all types of women, not the kind of housewives who walk around the streets every day and talk chatteringly.

Stay in the system and keep moving up. A high position can ensure that your image in his mind will not collapse.

Even as your position becomes higher and more stable, his love for you will gradually transform. It has become a kind of silent awe and admiration.

But now you have stripped off your bright feathers and turned from a high-flying phoenix into a drowned black chicken.

As long as you live a harmonious life as a couple, everything else is not a problem, but after the 7-year itch, you won't be able to. You have become a yellow-faced woman, but the streets are full of intellectual women who were once like you, with extraordinary temperament.

You are sure that he will not empathize in order to find your current shadow. Don’t fall in love, do you like another woman?"

Wen Ruyu was speechless.

“Also,” Tu Yalan went on to say, “the husband and the wife follow each other, which is actually the lowest level in the relationship between men and women.

Especially for a woman, if you want your husband, or If a man says he likes you, he will always have a respectful love for you, and you must have the ability to help him.

Tell me, do you help him more as a boss lady, or as a boss? Municipal leaders are more helpful to him."

Wen Ruyu smiled bitterly and said, "Of course I understand this. The problem is that if I stay in the system, I can't marry him."

Tu Yalan sighed, "Xiao Wen, don't blame me for speaking too harshly. You have never been married. Don't you understand that the foundation and guarantee of the relationship between men and women is not just a marriage certificate?

You and Jia Dalong were once legally married. Did you live a happy life?

Gao Yide and Jie Ping can be said to be talented men and beautiful women. You and Jie Ping are best friends. Her marriage is a happy one.You should know if you are unhappy. "

Wen Ruyu blinked and looked at Tu Yalan, "What Leader Tu means is"

Tu Yalan said, "I mean, if it is true love, you don't care about whether you are with him or not. Marital relationship.

If you lose the biggest opportunity in your life for the sake of marriage, you will definitely regret it in the future.

What is not available is beautiful

The biggest regret in life is to give up another, more beautiful thing in order to obtain one beautiful thing."

Wen Ruyu lowered her head, thought for a while, raised her head and said, "Leader Tu, I understand what you said. The problem is not only marriage, I also hope to be a mother.

And I hope that the children in the future will be mine and Erhu’s, not other men’s.

To tell you the truth, I only have Erhu in my heart now, and no man can take his place. "

Tu Yalan smiled and said, "If this is your only concern, then you are overthinking it. You and Jia Erhu may not be married, but this does not mean that you cannot have children."

Wen Ruyu looked at Tu Yalan with wide eyes.

Tu Yalan explained, "Sit down first. As far as you can sit, having a baby is only a matter of months, and there will always be a way to deal with it when the time comes.

Afterwards, you can say that the child belongs to someone else and was just adopted by you. "

Wen Ruyu looked at Tu Yalan in surprise, "If I were to become a municipal leader, how could I hide from everyone for several months and complete the delivery of my child?"

Tu Yalan He smiled and said, “When you are a leader at the municipal level, you cannot stay in one place forever. No matter how good or bad your work is, I am afraid you will be moved frequently.

In the process of moving, you can pretend to be upset, and even at a certain period of time, it is normal for you to sit at home and wait for several months before returning to work.

Of course, if you feel that you really can’t escape, even if you resign at that time, it will be better than now.

With the respect of a city-level leader, you gave up everything for Jia Erhu’s children. Far more than if you gave up everything for him now, he will be more grateful and will never let you down for the rest of his life. .

To use the simplest analogy, an ordinary woman gives up her ordinary job in order to have children. Isn’t this kind of thing normal at any time?

If that day comes, I believe Jia Erhu doesn’t even know What should I use to repay you? Do you still have to worry that he will change his mind?"

Wen Ruyu finally understood. She said with gratitude, "Thank you, Leader Tu. Your words are like enlightenment. It gave me a sudden enlightenment.

I will tell Erhu after a while that I will leave for Sijiu City the day after tomorrow. ”

Tu Yalan nodded and said, “Remember, it’s okay to be a man.”You can abandon everything, even your life, but you must never give up your career.

Because if any woman wants to live a glorious life in this world, she can neither rely on her parents, her husband, nor her children.

The only thing you can rely on is your own career.

Take me as an example. If I keep relying on Dongfang’s leader, he will quit. I am more than 10 years younger than him. What should I do now?

Do you know? At first, he did not want me to stay in the system, but wanted me to go abroad with my children, but I refused.

So even if he retires, not only will it not have any impact on my life, it will even help my career.

This time the leader talked to him and the condition for him to step down was to upgrade mine to half a level. If I had not stayed in the system, even if my family were living abroad, I would have become an old woman that everyone despises. "

Wen Ruyu smiled and said, "Not that much"

Tu Yalan said seriously, "It's pretty much that now only work can keep me full of energy every day."

I believe you can imagine what I would be like if I were shopping for food, cooking, doing housework, and even taking care of my grandchildren every day at home.

The image you imagined of me is what I will be like after you gave up this opportunity."

Wen Ruyu stood up and bowed to Tu Yalan, "Thank you, Leader Tu, for your teaching. One sentence is really enough to change my entire life. "Please remember to collect, the latest and fastest website without anti-theft, free to find books and add books, you can join the qq group 887805068