Wen Ruyu nodded and said, "Let's talk about drinking. You may not have noticed Chen Lingyan drinking with me just now.
When I said I wanted to toast you, her mentality was actually I have the same mentality as you, but why was it you who rushed to stand up and pick up the wine glass?
Because your idea at the time was to show your modesty and respect for me. Respect, for you, doing this is not only okay, but also shows your sincerity and simplicity.
But have you ever considered what I would think?
Do you think that if you sincerely show respect for me, I will accept it happily?"
Cao Yadan looked at Wen Ruyu in confusion again, thinking, isn't it?
Wen Ruyu continued, "If you stand up first and propose a toast to me as soon as we serve the table, I will happily accept it.
The problem is that I have already said that I want to toast both of you, but you don't Standing up first and insisting on respecting me first means that my proposal is wrong."
Cao Yadan blurted out, "I don't mean that."
Wen Ruyu smiled, "But I will definitely do it." They are so understanding, and all leaders are so understanding.
This is like a leader standing up with a wine glass at a banquet and saying that he wants to toast everyone, but you stop him. He respects you, and he has to wait for you to respect him before he can join us and others
No matter how open-minded the leader is, or even the leader who has ulterior motives for you, if you do that at the wine table , the other party can't tolerate it.
He will definitely turn his attention to Mr. Jia, and Mr. Jia will definitely scold you in public, or even kick you out directly, and have to apologize to the other party. ”
Cao Yadan just has no experience, but her IQ is not bad. After hearing Wen Ruyu’s explanation, she immediately understood, because people’s positions are different and they look at problems from different angles.
You think this is a good thing, but the other person feels that you are sincerely sorry for him. This is why some people always lament that it is difficult to be a good person.
Because you think you are being a good person, but what the other person sees is that you are making a fool of him.
"I understand." Cao Yadan asked again, "I just wanted to express my respect for you. After all, you are my teacher and now my boss lady. I think I accept your toast. It's just not polite.
Then what I want to ask is, I really want to show my mentality, and you toast in advance, what should I do?"
Wen Ruyu said, "You should be like Chen Lingyan, staring at me silently and waiting for me to finish my words.
When facing a leader or elder, listen patiently to what the other person has to say. , is not only an essential quality for subordinates and juniors, but also the greatest courtesy to leaders and elders.
You can look for opportunities to change your mentality after accepting the toasts from leaders and elders.Revealed.
Just now, you can wait until I finish explaining the reason for the toast and drink it, and then say, Teacher, I was supposed to toast you first, but I accepted your toast just now. , it really scares me. I’d like to toast you.
The more humble your tone is and the more polite you are, the more your qualities will be reflected, and your leaders and elders will look up to you. ”
Cao Yadan nodded and said, “I understand, thank you teacher for your teaching.” "
"Also," Wen Ruyu said, "The reason why I emphasize that you have to tell yourself that you are a woman is to be different from men, especially at the wine table.
Regardless of whether Mr. Jia is here or not, as long as you are facing leaders of other departments or units, and as long as the other party proposes a toast to you, you must not drink before the leader.
And when drinking, you must pay attention to how the leader drinks. You can only toast if the leader drinks. If the leader only takes a small sip, you can only take a large sip at most, and you must not toast.
This is what Chen Lingyan did just now. She kept looking at me and waited until I started drinking before she drank.
Seeing how much I drank, it was slightly more than I drank, and that was the detail.
Now, both leaders and bosses pay more attention to the details of their subordinates.
Back to when you were drinking with your boss, again, because you are a woman, your boss didn’t want to drink that glass of wine, but you did. Do you think he could stop drinking?
More importantly, if he doesn't do it, others will think that this person is not a big person, and they won't take you, the little secretary, or the little girl seriously.
If he does it, others will say that he must have fallen in love with you and has evil thoughts about you, and he is definitely a pervert.
Do you understand now that when the other party does not toast, but you toast, you are putting the other party in an awkward position, leaving the other party with no choice.
That’s all, because our relationship is special, so I don’t care.
If we were not in this kind of relationship, I would toast you two and you would drink up the wine first.
Tell me, how should I drink this wine next?"
Cao Yadan's face turned red and she apologized repeatedly.
Wen Ruyu smiled slightly, "No need to apologize, although Now you are no longer my student, but you are Mr. Jia’s secretary, so I don’t treat you as an outsider. I treat you as my own sister. I hope you will avoid detours in the future. "
Cao Yadan said, "No, you are my teacher and will always be my teacher."
Chen Lingyan rolled her eyes at her, "Why don't you change despite repeated admonition? Teacher Wen just told you in vain." For a long time.
What do you mean by no? Are you saying that what Teacher Wen said is wrong?
You should say thank you for treating me as your biological sister. If you want to express your respect for Teacher Wen, do you accept You can also say that in my heart, you are not only my sister, but also my teacher, and you are my forever teacher."
Only then did Cao Yadan react. He lowered his head in shame and shook his head vigorously, wishing to find a crack in the ground to crawl in.
The way Wen Ruyu looked at her, she suddenly remembered her girlhood.
Cao Yadan's current appearance and body shape are very similar to her in the past. She is falling in love with Cao Yadan more and more, and at the same time, she also understands why Jia Erhu keeps Cao Yadan by her side.
Wen Ruyu smiled and said, "It's okay today. We are our own people. We don't have to pay much attention to eating and drinking, but this habit must be developed."
At this time, Chen Lingyan raised her wine glass. He said, "Teacher Wen, thank you for your teaching. Both Cao Yadan and I have benefited a lot. Now the two of us toast you together."
Cao Yadan's heart skipped a beat, thinking why I am so stupid. Teacher Wen said It was so clear that I was actually one step ahead of her.
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